Labor Of Love: 4 Tips On Dating A Busy Person J Cameron Gantt

That’s you going against your word and as men our word is our bond. So don’t just say you support him with your lips, say it with your actions. When you’re dating a busy man, you need to understand that you can’t be his only priority. You’ll be sharing his attention with his job, and possibly his family, friends, or hobbies. Spend time with friends and meet new friends. Dedicate a lot of time to things that you’re passionate about, even if it’s just a hobby for now.

Calling you at an odd time when no reasonable person is awake or when they’re about to board a plane means they don’t really want to talk at all. “The serious person is extremely apologetic,” she said. Before you count them out, here are some things you might want to take into consideration. When the economy tanked, the job market became unbelievably competitive. It caused a lot of people to shift their priorities and the mindset became to find a job, keep a job or become an entrepreneur.

It’s harder for them to trust others or to understand the benefits of a long-term relationship because of previous experiences or an unstable home life growing up. If you’re just pretending to listen or care, your date will pick up on it. Rather than helping you connect and make a good impression, your efforts will most likely backfire. If you aren’t genuinely interested in your date, there is little point in pursuing the relationship further. When you’re truly curious about someone else’s thoughts, feelings, experiences, stories, and opinions, it shows—and they’ll like you for it.

Even if he is unable to make time, he should be able to understand your needs, so tell him how you’re feeling. However, if you’re expecting him to constantly be around and talk to you for hours over the phone, that’s not going to happen. Either adjust your expectations if you’re wanting more than he can give you, or look for a different partner. If you’re going to try to make it work with this man, you’re going to need some pointers.

Me (32F) dating guy (35M) He is always busy we have been on and off for a few months close to a year

When you have something important to say, about your job, family or friends, or about your relationship, he REALLY listens. He stops what he’s doing or sets aside time to give you his full attention. When you’re seeing a man who is super busy, there are 10 behaviors to look for that let you know he really does care.

These are high-energy, goal-oriented, intelligent, and driven partners. As with all the signs, you need to consider this behavior along with all of his other behaviors. If he’s canceling on you a lot and doing nearly everything else on this list, then he’s definitely losing interest.

Set your own goals; spend time with friends; try new hobbies to see if any fit. “New relationships can have hiccups, and the hiccups can look a lot like hot and cold or game playing,” she said. “People are scared. It’s a territory where we’re known to get our feelings hurt. There’s a lot of missteps and miscommunication.”

2. Dating Other Women

And that makes me curious – is he really too busy or just not interested? Recently, I met a guy online and we met face-to-face after a week of chatting. We had a great time and texted every day after.

We have been seeing one another less than a month so he knows feeling connected is important to me but I don’t want to push it. I was mad at myself for sort of waiting around for a guy. Typically, I fill my calendar and don’t wait for a man. Chances are if you’re reading this article and feel like you’re always alone, it’s probably because you’re always hanging out with yourself.

Practicing mindfulness can help you stay in touch with your feelings and quickly move on from negative experiences. Be grateful for early rejections—it can spare you much more pain down the road. At some point, everyone looking for love is going to have to deal with rejection—both as the person being rejected and the person doing the rejecting. It’s an inevitable part of dating, and never fatal. By staying positive and being honest with yourself and others, handling rejection can be far less intimidating.

Some will need to see a similar IQ, others will simply need to see zest for life. Sometimes, intelligence comes at the price of being practical. It is therefore very common to see people who are smart to be very unhandy around the home, or with very little common sense. As a result, they will naturally respect others and, while they may not do things the same way, can understand why others act in certain ways. Women or men who are seeing a very clever guy can expect to have their opinions valued as a consequence.

When your man gets extremely busy, that can leave you wondering where you stand. It’s hard to deal with his schedule and you wish things were clearer. He has acknowledged that he doesn’t have time for you, and he knows that you deserve better, and has told you that.

On the contrary, if he’s just making an excuse and not truly interested, he won’t even bother. Believe it or not, this is one of the biggest things guys look for in a girl. If you your man is sending mixed signals, get my free book, His Mixed Signals Are Driving me Crazy now. He reassures you and tells you everything will be OK, which is so comforting. This is when you really appreciate him and know he’s a keeper.